In the Bible, not sure which passage because I'm lame, it talks about having a quiver...the family you are to have under God.
Every one's quiver is a different size...some with kids, some without. How do I know how many kids are supposed to be in my quiver? Why is the transition to two kids from one so difficult to make? I feel like Carrie Bradshaw off of "Sex in the City." Instead of posting info about an outrageous sex life, I'm talking about boogers, poop patterns, and when to have another child. Is there something wrong with me that I don't have that, "I can't wait to have another," feeling. Motherhood has been more trying than anything I've ever accomplished in my life. My husband and I took a trip to Mexico before the Swine Flu outbreak, and it was the most amazing week I've had in a long time. No responsibility, just me and my
Zune on the beach and by the pool. It was a week of being my
old self. On one of the talk shows recently, they discussed the whole "Mom" thing. They said that after having kids, you can never return to who you were before having kids, but you have to reinvent yourself. This is so true. The hard part is finding your identity once you have a kid. Getting past just being Hank's Mom, as if that shouldn't be enough. However, you are constantly asking yourself, "Where did I go?" Being a Mom should be the definition of sacrifice. Don't get me wrong, I love my son and being his mother, but can I do this all again...advice would be great! Happy Blogging!
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I'm one of Candice's friends and the post title caught my eye so I came on over to take a look.....you know who you were before you got married, right? Well, your hubby made you even that much greater, right....God made you for each other, his weaknesses are your strengths and vice versa...you complete each other (or that's what should be anyway!)...well, I have four kids and with each one I've changed a little...for the better each time too. I was just me, then Brandon's husband (a better me)..then Parker's Mom (even better me then on and on and on and now I'm just that crazy homeschooling mom with four kids..."what was she thinking" but if I sit down and analyze what my life is like...no vacations for us...no alone time, can't wipe my rear without little eyes in my business but I am definitely the best wife and Mommy I could possibly be for my hubby and kiddos...not that I can't be improved but THEY ARE WHO I AM....everything about me...the thoughts I have the things that drive me...are results of this role of wife and mother...embrace it sister....this is a season of life the cherish...not just endure...they will be gone in a blink of an eye and we will wish little eyes were up in our business again all too soon. YES, you can do it again. The next will will make you even better too.
If anyone has a very full quiver - it's Jen! (that's the name of her blog) :) Liz, Hank is so blessed to have such a wonderful mommy! Motherhood is not easy, and it's only just begun for me, but - I think it's so completely normal to have reservations about another child. (I so understand you sister!) Especially since you're still in the middle of the diaper, not-talking, getting into everything, can't turn your back for a second phase. There is no doubt in my mind that you can do this all over again though. And, if you truly feel like your quiver isn't full yet - my grandmother had 9 kids....and she started at age 28...so you've still got plenty of time :)
Oh, Liz. All you need to do is get knocked up without knowing it. Then you realize that God's thoughts really are higher than your thoughts and His ways really higher than your ways - even if you are freaked out about the prospect of 2 tiny arrows in the quiver at the same time...
I think we're all just caught up in a next-step society: Congratulations on graduating high school! Where are you going to school, and what's your major? Oh, you've graduated from OSU with a degree in communications? Where will you be waiting tables. Oh, you've been dating for a few months... do I hear wedding bells? Married for 2 years? When can I expect to hear the pitter-patter coming from your house. Oh, so Hank is 18 months old... doesn't he want a little brother/sister? On and on and on and on. It can be daunting. I have no doubt that God will give you wisdom as you seek Him.
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